Monday, February 9, 2009

Heart to heart?....wtf?

sometimes, i still don't get it why some people would come up to me and ask for my point of views or opinions about stuff..especially when it comes to relationships, i don't mind knowing about it IF i asked :). what..do i have a sign on my forehead which says 'Relief Counter'? ooo...wait, i actually did say those exact words before giving them my thoughts hahaha.

i'm not exactly one to give out the best advices, but i am an expert when it comes to being an ass haha. i don't tell them what they want to hear, i tell them the dirty truth of how i see it :). In a way, i am quite honored to be their ears and shoulders in times of need and i understand that everyone needs someone they can speak to. But, i am only human and i don't even quite trust my own words and perceptions when it comes to other people, so whenever i open my mouth to tell them something, i would be left with the guilt of knowing that if anything goes wrong, i am partly to be blamed (which i'm glad it hasn't happened yet hehe :).

Everyone has their own problems to deal with, some deal with it alone and some needs someone elses words to help them to get by :), and there are pros and cons whichever way they do it...

DEALING WITH IT ALONE

Pros

a) No one else would be bothered by it
b) You are strong willed
c) No one has anything to say against you if everything doesn't work out
d) More self reflections could be done

Cons
a) It eats you inside
b) You emotion would swell to a point where you won't be able to feel anything
c) Conjuring up wrong solutions, adding more problems on top of the existing ones
d)Tendency of being anti-social haha

DEALING WITH HELP OF OTHER PEOPLE

Pros
a) New insights
b) More solutions
c) Shared burden
d) Strenghtens bond.

Cons
a) Being dependent on other people on how to think and act
b) People know of your weaknesses
c) A pity case

I could list down more on both aspects if given enough free time haha, but for now..these may just be all.

So how exactly should we deal with our own demons...well, all i can say is deal with it on your preference. Just remember that, whichever way you wanna do it..the final decision is always in your hands :). Part of the conditions of being alive is to face the trials and tribulations presented to us, for nothing can be more sweeter after a good suffering :). then again...i just don't give a damn hahaha

Ciao peeps :)...

ps: what the hell am i rambling here again? geez....Happy Chap Goh Meh peeps (is that the correct greeting for this particular day..'Happy'? hahaha)

2 comments:

Fridaycat said...

Ya, memang pun you can be quite the ass when it comes to giving advice :P

but i mean that with all the love in the world.

Refreshing juga la to hear the blunt truth, but laser juga mulut ko kadang2. Good thing I'm an 'understanding' friend, hahaha

JerryInc said...

hahaha, Mel...would you prefer me to be the other way around? hehehe

being laser has its advantageslah..its my way of filtering out the bad from the great group of people i've come to know hehe. those who stayed, are those who are worth hanging out with hehehe