"yo dude, what're you doing here?!" he asked...
"i should be asking you the same question" i replied with my usual laugh
"didn't expect to see you here and i missed you..been wanting to look you up" in a sudden change in tone of voice and i could tell he really did..
"hey well, what's the use of technology, a short text message would suffice" laughing trying to clear the gloom.
"i texted you on your birthday and you didn't reply, i thought you were too busy"
"what?!! that's like about 3months ago. grow up dude haha. but truth be told, i kinda forgot about you and everyone else..." smirking at my own reply. "so, is this the infamous girlfriend you've been telling me about?"
an exchange of awkward glances happened in a split second between them "noooo..she's just a friend, my senior in high school.."
"owh...", feeling a bit awkward for about a second there and then they took their seats putting me in the middle...
"so, you and your girlfriend are still together?" i asked
"yeah..more or less. we are having toubles, that's why i needed to speak to you. oh and you're still drinking here alone? you haven't change dude" he laughed
i smiled, and i knew where this was going. so we talked about all the shit he was going through, the stuff that has happened and finally, my advice to him was...
"dude, i've told you before didn't i. both of you are still young (literally in their early 20s), and there are a lot of room for changes. you're taking your relationship too seriously, you have to loosen up a little. you can't be controlling her, especially now she's in uni. let her do whatever she wants, as long as she doesn't overstep the boundries. you can't be telling her not to do this or that, let her enjoy life, she's in uni for heaven's sake..she needs to loosen up as well. all you can do is just support whatever she's doing, if you think she's doing something wrong then just tell her off but not in a condescending manner. at least if things didn't work out between the both of you, she would remember you as her loving and supporting ex"
"but what about the promises we made before she left? doesn't it mean anything to her?"
"geez dude, next time come up with a more realistic promises. you're not 15 or 17 year olds anymore.... grow up. honestly dude, the ball is in her court and she's on the winning side. all you can do now is just 'makan hati' (i have no idea how to translate that in english hahaha). if there is such a thing as a sacrifice in a relationship, this would be yours" smiling unconvincingly.
"you know what, i hate it when you tell me stuff like these"
"yeah, well...maybe you're just perverted cos you keep coming back for more", i thought but just gave him an approving smile instead..
i know that it's much easier said than done, heck, based on my track records of past relationships, i'm not even qualified to give out any advices hahaha. but i tell as how i see it, no sugar coating or any form of sweet words..just being my obnoxious self hahaha. but seriously, i would be left with guilt whenever i do give out these kinda stuff, not knowing whether my advices made sense or the thought that it may backfire can be quite disturbing...how's that for an ugly truth :)
"life isn't always sweet and cosy...remember that..."