Friday, May 9, 2008

love interrogated...

I was doing my usual blog hopping when i chanced upon a blog of an acquaintance by profession. A quote in her entry caught my attention...:)

"Love makes no excuses, doesn’t bargain nor does it make you feel worth less than you really are. If a man truly loves you, there is no such thing as an obstacle.” - Mel's Dad

How often can one person fall in love in their lifetime? once, twice or more? well, newsflash..those who says that they can be in love more than once in their lifetime is nothing more than just idiots who couldn't differentiate between love, lust and desire. let me make it simple then:

1. LOVE: a blissful feeling of pure affection and care for another soul/person.

2. LUST: a sensual feeling which is caused by the stirring in the loin..

3. DESIRE: the need to want something for personal pleasure or satisfaction.

(disclaimer: dont be an idiot by taking the definitions at face value, look up the dictionary for their actual definitions :))

Falling in love is relatively easy, all you need is someone whom you like to like you back and walla...you now have a loved one. but guess what, whoever thinks of it that way are desperate and lonely idiots who has nothing good going on in their life.

How exactly does falling in love works? does it consist of two people professing their innermost feeling to each other or does it only require one of them to show what being in love really means? the word 'love' itself is quite a strong word and anyone who uses the word nonchalantly should be punished severely.

it's a wonder how anyone can say it freely without actually knowing what they really feel. the word should be regarded as something sacred and shouldn't be said in vain (maybe they should put it in the 10 commandments: thou shalt not use the word 'love' in vain. hahaha) because not only it's mysterious and confusing, but it's also misleading.

everyone of us are constantly looking for that one special person to come into our life and when that person appears, we would instantly know that she/he is the one for us. for most, love comes sooner while for others, love would appear quite later in life. but nonetheless, most true love are never without obstacles. therein lies the question of how far would you go to defend your love of your life? would you let the obstacles come between what is meant to be or would you stick to what is meant to be?

obstacles are what makes the love stronger. no matter how much we wish that love should be without any obstacles, the plain fact is that these obstacles are the very thing which makes the relationship stronger, makes love stronger. but if you give in to the obstacles, that only proves one thing...that what you think was love, wasn't love at all.

there are sacrifices to be made when you really love someone, as they say...love doesn't come cheap but it's priceless in the long run. so, how exactly do you know that you've met the right person? put it this way...whom do you think about or where does your mind lead you when you're thinking about someone? or, on a deeper level...take a few moments to close your eyes and imagine that you're on the verge of dying, think of someone whom you'd like to spend your last moment with. the person which appears strongly in your mind should be the one you should commit to. well, speaking about death, what would you do if the person you're really in love with suddenly died? would you regret not telling them how much you really feel for them? (okay...love and death should be discussed in another topic hehe)

am not sure why i'm rambling about love when i myself is single (but not looking hehe) and probably clueless in this area, so don't mind me hehe. but one thing i do know is that, if you really love someone, always tell them how much they mean to you and don't let them wonder otherwise. but if you cant say it, then at least do something to show that you still do..be creative :). just because you're together doesn't mean that you should cease saying or showing what you really feel...

okay, am gonna quit rambling now. probably part of the reason why i'm writing this entry is because my parent's 30th anniversary is just around the corner..and honestly speaking, i am envious of how they stayed together for this long hehehehe.

ciao peeps...

4 comments:

Ned said...

speaking from experience is something other poeple couldnt agree more...

in so many ways, love is all around us... although i dont quite agree with what mel's dad quoted by saying "Love makes no excuses, doesn’t bargain nor does it make you feel worth less than you really are. If a man truly loves you, there is no such thing as an obstacle"... it is an oppinopn worth respecting for..

u see, love is all about excuses, its all about bargaining, its all abt feeling worthless and more, its always abt obstacles...

only when we see this, then we know what love really is.. until that, love is just that...

JerryInc said...

u have a point there...but if you think about it clearly, no excuses are too much to handle, no bargains are to expensive to hassle and no obstacles too difficult to overcome, i think that was what Mel's dad was trying to say.

but like you said, only when we see this do we know what love really is or otherwise... :)

cool! we are actually exchanging point of views here hehehe..

Ned said...

thats exactly what im trying to say... only then my friend... only then we will really know...

ya, we are, arent we? hehehe...

JerryInc said...

hahaha cool :P